Coaching is a process or an inquiry method that challenges people to explore possibilities and activate their dreams. For your clients, coaching is “inside-out” work, meaning the answers are typically already inside them. Your questions surface those powerful answers. For your clients, coaching is “inside-out” work, meaning the answers are typically already inside them. Your questions surface those powerful answers.
“Did you know? Thomas Leonard is known as the father of modern day coaching. He believed in coaches being great at coaching. So do I!!”
I started in coaching when Thomas Leonard was still alive and making an impact in coaching in a HUGE way. He was a prolific writer, producer of coaching content and advocate for coaches and the coaching industry.
Facebook reminded me that I made this statement four years ago today. I still believe that coaches should be great at coaching. And, that doesn’t mean having letters behind your name. It means you’re making the necessary investment to do your own personal work.
Clearly, that’s not the case for everyone who calls herself a coach. It’s true! Unfortunately, I heard another horror story about a coach doing harm to a client just last year.
Coaching is NOT giving advice!
If you have an opinion (keep it to yourself) unless you get permission from your client to share it. Even then you need to tread softly. Remember, your client is trusting you with her heart, her deepest desires and most personal perspectives.
Being a self-proclaimed expert/guru doesn’t give you the right to squash someone else’s dreams. #CoachHealYourself #GetOutOfTheWay
Choosing to call yourself a coach doesn’t automatically mean you’re qualified to coach. Go get some formal coach training, will ya?! You cannot watch others in the marketplace and assume you know how to coach. Invest in yourself and go hire a great mentor coach. There’s something dishonest about a person who calls herself/himself a coach but doesn’t invest in one.
Stop and think before you open your mouth.
Your job is to uplift and empower not to tear down, discourage or cause disillusionment in your clients. #PersonalFoundationMatters
If you need to challenge a client, be sure you “wrap” your toughness in compassion. Creating a sacred space means your coaching time with your client is a safe space for your client to share and confide in you. Trust and truth go hand in hand with caring! Coaching skills equip you to do just that!
As recently as 2016, I was on the receiving end of a coaching horror story. I was reminded that we are all perfectly flawed and there are always new lessons to be learned from any experience. Even a coach has her own personal challenges. Take the lessons from the experience and move on!
My request of you:
Coaches, work on your personal issues with a really good coach who will guide you through the maze of your thoughts, ideas and other “stuff.” That way you can serve your clients without getting in the way of their success.
After more than 15 years in this industry, hearing the horror stories about coaching still gets my blood boiling. When I first posted this rant last year, my coach at the time, Kristen Beireis of Coaches Marketing Source, challenged me to use this new experience to up level my coaching and believe more in my clients. Then, I can fully support their dreams with coaching that works!
Then, you can become a #MasterfulCoach and #LifelongLearner.
Remember, #mindsetiseverything #GreatCoachesHaveCoaches and #IMentorCoaches.